Too many cooks spoil the broth
Setting: At home, Kitchen
Time: Last night at 7:00pm
(Me cooking spaghetti with ground turkey meat, mushrooms with a tomato sauce reduction) - ok I added the last part as it sounds better and that's how the Top Chefs would say it. :)
Me: Hi honey (Kisses DH while mixing sauce)
Me: Dinner should be ready soon
DH: It smells different (wrinkling nose).
DH: Did you do something different this time?
Me: No, same as I've always made it
DH: It smells different
Me: It doesn't. Try it, it tastes the same.
After this short exchange, I was slightly annoyed at DH. I spent the last hour preparing our dinner, chopping and slaving over the stove and that's what he says to me?
DH is usually very complimentary of my cooking and appreciative of my efforts. There are times though that his comments slight me, like this instance. Sometimes he'll comment -- the garlic's cut too big or the rice is mushy. I think I'm really sensitive about my cooking. I spend time preparing food and any non positive comment about it feels unappreciative of the time and effort I spent cooking. If you do not have any positive comments, keep it to yourself unless you are having an allergic reaction or if I ask for your opinion.
When he cooks, he likes neutral tasting food so his dishes come out blander than I would like. I don't tell him "Your food is tasteless or bland". Instead, I just add more flavor to my plate.
Am I over reacting? Possibly? ... Absolutely!
I guess it's like art. If you're an artist and spent your time and effort on a painting, and someone comments, you didn't use the right color, as an artist, you would feel it was an attack against your work.
I welcome constructive criticism.... but it's all in the delivery and timing of it.
I don't know how the contestants on Top Chef or Project Runway take it. I would probably tear up once the judges assess my "creation". But hey, for a chance to win $1M I would suck it up and take the criticisms! :)
Later after dinner, DH loved the spaghetti. He said thank you for making dinner, it was delicious. Needless to say, I got over my earlier annoyance at DH and enjoyed the rest of the evening.
Question of the day: Is there something in particular you are sensitive about?
posted by Trixie @ 8:53 AM
3 Comments:
I bet he would have kept his mouth shut if you were holding a knife! :)
I'm sensitive about jokes friends make about my last relationship. It's only okay to laugh, if I laugh first. :/
I'm the same way when it comes to cooking. I guess it's all of the time and effort combined with me not being that great of a cook yet that makes me a bit hyper-sensitive.
I'm also really sensitive about whether or not someone thinks I'm nice. I'm really candid and upfront with people, and sometimes I think that is perceived as bitchy. But I make a concerted effort to me nice/kind to people, so it always makes me sad when I'm perceived otherwise (mainly just by my sister though:)
Aaron - Yes, I think DH would've thought twice if he saw me holding a sharp object. :)
I agree with you on past relationships. I can laugh about them now but I don't like it when people kid about it, unless I bring it up first.
Ally - I'm by far no means a gourmet cook but I do try my darnest to put out a healthy tasty dish. I guess that does makes me feel more vulnerable about my cooking when I hear the comments.
I think it's refreshing that you are candid and upfront with people. It's unfortunate that some people would equate that as being "bitchy".
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